Monday, February 2, 2009

Unhealthy crushes on make-believe men

The following post is a little self-indulgent. Not the usual fare for this blog. But hey, why not? It's my blog and and I can write what I want to.

I have come to an important realization in my personal life. I have too many real crushes on fictional men. Books, movies, TV shows--I'm meeting these guys everywhere. Everywhere except reality.

Curious about who makes my heart all a flutter? Well, there's...
  • Ned, aka The Piemaker, from "Pushing Daisies"
  • Mr. Darcy from "Pride and Prejudice"
  • Mark Darcy from "Bridget Jones's Diary"
  • Marshall from "How I Met Your Mother"
  • Benedick from "Much Ado About Nothing"
  • Luke AND Christopher AND Max from "Gilmore Girls"
  • Jimmy Stewart in anything ("The Philedelphia Story", "Shop around the Corner", "It's a Wonderful Life", "Rear Window"...See? Anything.)
No one can accuse me of not having a type. All of these characters are good guys to the core with a splash of bite. They're all smart but can be silly when the situation calls for it (well, maybe not Darcy, he's not really the silly type). They understand the value of banter. And, oddly enough, they're all tall. Okay, I'm not sure how the tall the "book" guys are, but in my head they're definitely taller than me, in heels.

So how unhealthy is this? Having feelings for guys that "technically" don't exist? I'm thinking it doesn't bode well for a real dating life with real men.

31 comments:

Melissa said...

Oh boy (heh), that's a great list! I have a lot of fictional crushes too - a couple who come to mind are Ted from How I Met Your Mother and Jason from Gilmore Girls. It's that combination of funny, smart, and nice that kills me every time. Oh, and in my head, they're all taller than me too! So yeah, I'm not sure how healthy this is for dating in real life, but it sure is nice to know I'm not the only one with make-believe crushes!

tiennie said...

Yes to your list! My hubby understands my crush on make-believe men. :)

Stacy said...

Fictional guys are sometimes better than the real ones...less drama, great behavior and all sorts of romantic. Finding a real life one is so much harder!

ali said...

I'm with you on the GG crushes, my heart breaks every time Lorelai breaks up with Max, and Christopher finds out Sherri is pregnant and Luke acts like a jerk. In fact, I'd prefer to end the series right before April makes her appearance.

Zannah said...

Meh... nothing wrong with fictional-men crushes over real-men crushes when there aren't any real men in your life. Or... so I told myself earlier today while watching the 1995 Persuasion (and knitting, natch) as I decided that the 2007 Wentworth is much more my cup of tea. A cup of tea I'd like to have with a slice of the Pie Maker, please.

Better Living said...

Imaginary men are best of all. I've always had a thing for Sherlock Holmes!

Erin said...

As you know...I LOVE imaginary men. In fact, I am watching one of my favs right now (my Chuck.)

Amander said...

I love that you have Max, Luke, and Christopher on your list - I think you should be Lorelai!

I like this post because I have had the same thoughts many times...

Nantucket Dreams said...

i hear ya! i think it's perfectly healthy as long as you do not crush so badly on them that you ignore an everyday kinda hero who might be right in front of you= they do exist ya know! :) oh that mark darcy...yum! and jimmy stewart...although cary grant really gets my heart racing.

Martha in California said...

I love, love Mr. Darcy and Luke.
Ditto on there's nothing wrong with a fictional crush. You're a woman that knows what she wants in a man. He's out there. :o)
I've stopped looking. I figure, if I'm meant to be with someone, more than likely, I'll bump into him when I'm looking my worse and take me as I am....that's just my luck.

Windybrook Spinner said...

At least you have crushes on stable, fairly reliable men. The only fictional crushes I can think of at the moment are Han Solo and Anakin Skywalker (in Attack of the Clones, not Revenge of the Sith.) Sad. Oh, wait. Aragorn is a winner, and I definitely have a thing for Legolas. The best is Faramir, though. Don't you just wish you were Eowyn. What a woman! What a great name! There's just so many wonderful fictional men out there and they are so much easier to get to know.

Adam and Bri said...

Oh, fictional men. Yum.

the Lady said...

I agree with Stacy. And Mr. Darcy is out there. He exists. I've got one. You just need to feng shui/the secret/visualize/materialize them into your life! :-)

the Lady said...

Besides, we all know how hot those fictional characters can be...

Stephanie said...

I think it's completely normal and reasonable! I mean....who doesn't like the Pie Maker?? *swoon*.

sula said...

What's unhealthy about high standards? :)

Lisa said...

As long as you don't start ignoring the real men in your life for the fictional, you're just fine.

Real men don't have screenwriters to spend days on what they say and do, so you should probably cut the real guys some slack.

amanda said...

Great list - no worries, we all have crushes like these. If anything, your keen eye will help you find the right guy!

cappyt said...

I"m a little more partial to Ted than Marshall, but totally agree with you on Ned and am so sad he's been canceled.

SpiderWomanKnits said...

Ahhh! Me too! I am a married woman but have many serious crushes on men that don't actually exist. My husband thinks it's hilarious.

Russel Crowe as the Gladiator, Josh Holloway as Sawyer from Lost, Ralph Fines and Naveen Andrews in The English Patient...just to name a few...

Nothing is worse for me when I see an interview with one of the actors and they are the total opposite of the character so I avoid all their public appearances on talk shows etc. Must. Keep. Illusion. Alive.

Heather said...

I have to add in Eddie Cahill and Carmine Giovinazzo on CSI:NY.

Chocolates for Breakfast said...

Nothing wrong with a little "fictional crush" as long as you cut the "real" guys a little slack...no one is going to make pies like Ned, banter as well as Chris and Max, or look as good as Hugh Jackman in Australia, wearing his white tux (or with his shirt off)! Tyler hates "chick flicks" and the "Twilight" series for many reasons, but among them, guys just can't compete with that kind of standard!? By the way, you are Lorelai to me, only better!

Nonnahs said...

Oh, crushes are fun!

Two Cables and a Frapp said...

On the subject of crushes, whether the person is fictional or real, it's all the same to me. I just like the warmness it gives me !!!

Chancy said...

As evidenced by all the ladies before me, it happens to the best of us. And fictional crushes barely ever let you down.

Durrett Family Band said...

I'm more of a Ted Mosby kind of girl, though Marshall is adorable and a lawyer. I've always thought lawyers are dead sexy.

Heidelweiss said...

It's completely normal. Just make sure you marry a guy who understands that these crushes will continue but it's nothing for him to worry about unless they actually come off the page/out of the TV (but then we're into the realm of horror so that's another topic altogether). Steve has a perfect knowledge of my Mr. Darcy crush. He love's Lizzy Bennet. We're not getting divorced over it.

Meg said...

If it's unhealthy, it must be an epidemic, because I've got it too! The best thing about fictional guys is that they never let you down by not talking to you for no reason or (worse) talking to you about your cute friend. Still, fiction is based on reality, right? Right?

knitseashore said...

Patrick Dempsey in Lucky Seven. He looks suspiciously like my own husband with that dark wavy hair, and bicycle love.

Since you have noticed the pattern of what you like in a man, I'm sure your crush will materialize in real life very soon. He might not be quite as polished, but he will be there.

Laurel said...

totally normal.
totally healthy.

(and seriously...who doesn't swoon from a great Jimmy Stewart flick. "Mr Smith Goes to Washington"? HELLO!)

Meredith Whitney said...

There is a reason why these men exist in books and TV and the like: some women, just like us, were fed up with reality and so decided to write the perfect bantering, taller than you in heels, sweet but biting male. Ta-dah. But, I am still holding out some hope...and this is why I gave you the book about Mr. Darcy for X-mas.